Miserable millennial marriages
The great cultural couple fight around "gender" and housework
I keep thinking about a dumb meme I’ve seen floating around Instagram (a platform I increasingly consider giving up all together, I’m sad to say).
“A man who works to support a family isn’t sacrificing anything. He’s just doing what he’d be doing if he was single.”
I’ve seen men and women alike share this, and felt disgusted every time.
I’m not naieve, and I won’t pretend to be.
I know that what they mean by this is that if a man is working full-time to support a family, he shouldn’t be able to get out of doing the dishes.
I mean, unless these people sincerely want to share this statement at face value, this claim that a man who is working to support a family isn’t making any sacrifices. It wouldn’t surprise me, but I do think these people assume that we’re all in on the great, cultural couple fight that is the way modern people talk about “gender” and housework.
I get so fired up at the indignation that people today truly want to fight about how much or how little a man gives up when he works to provide for a family, but at the end of the day, it kind of just makes me sad.
Like…how completely out of touch are these people with reality that they think a man providing for a family sacrifices nothing?
We can look at the way that a woman sacrifices her singleness, her career, her body, her time, and her youth to bring children into the world, but not a man who fathers and provides for the wife and child?
What on earth?
Sometimes I wonder if I’m just spitting into the wind when I try to point out how much contemporary feminist society hates men, but goodness. The examples are right in front of us, smacking us in the face.
And what’s really sad about this is that the ongoing narrative around marriage, housework, taking care of children, and how much each parent contributes is indicative of a seismic cultural divide running underneath the feet of the current generation.
Below all the divisions between differing ideologies is the division between men and women that runs through countless millennial marriages and deep into the hearts of the children they’re raising.
As angry, indignant marriage-aged people share their important beliefs about “partnership,” “equality,” and the toxicity of traditional marriage roles, we can only imagine behind them all and their millions of followers are even more people who are constantly fighting about these things in their marriages.
This is the real, hard, incredibly messy fruit of feminism. I know I generally pride myself on nuance, but I’ve got to put a blunt tip on this one.
Feminism objectively weaponized housework and domestic roles to wage war against men, and the important-sounding, pop-psychology framed language around how devastating it is to be a woman and how awful it is to be a man who wants a domestic wife is very clearly and directly rooted in this radical cultural ideology.
I’m sorry, it’s really that simple, these are just plain facts. The 20th Century whizzed by so quickly and chaotically we’re only just noticing how very devastating the rapid cultural change has been on the fabric of society.
Lord, have mercy.
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That’s all for today, friends!
I pray you all have a blessed Holy Week. Lord Jesus Christ, have mercy on us!
In some ways it’s the flip side of the way misogynist men talked 200 years ago. Dickens has his penny pinching striver say he doesn’t want a wife because they are “improvident”, as though all that mattered is the money he would spend, not coming home to a home rather than a cold empty apartment.