"A real trad wife wouldn't be online." Really?

Let's unpack this problematic claim

In my capacity of a self-styled apologist for so-called “trad wives,” I’ve heard this statement many times over the years:

“A real trad wife wouldn’t be on social media.”

People often seem very pleased with themselves to have come up with this clever “gotcha,” and I must confess it’s often said to me in confidence, in the context of criticizing a trad wif…